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Ishika's avatar

this was so beautiful !! - perfectionism will always damn us to be unproductive - unless we are willing to make mistakes then we’ll never reach by mastery we desire - but that is so much easier said than done

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shams's avatar

100% agree!!

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Mars's avatar

oh this had me emosh thank you so much for writing this

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shams's avatar

glad we’re all emotional here :D

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Zainab Vighio's avatar

omg i resonate with this so much i love u:3

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shams's avatar

your thoughts are my thoughts!

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Rose's avatar

it's like you read my diary 🥹🥹

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notes.from.nineteen's avatar

you don’t have to be perfect at everything, you don’t have to perform all the time. let yourself just exist. <3

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Kelsey Aida's avatar

Same

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Belema's avatar

Amen

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Julia's avatar

Wait are you me rn??

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shams's avatar

i am

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Julia's avatar

hi me 👋

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Tulina’omubeezi🤎✨'s avatar

I need a big hug after this therapy session! Thank you✨(types while trying to be the best comment on this post🙂)

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shams's avatar

everyone is the best comment!! sending hugs 😌🫂🫂

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Carolyn's avatar

Amazing read !

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claudinette's avatar

this is the best thing i've read on here yet. you're so cool for this

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shams's avatar

this is the biggest compliment ever oh my god. i’ve read so many great pieces on here, i genuinely don’t think mine is one of the best but just it being out there is so good to me. thank you so much!

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mansha's avatar

i loved this piece!! it's a feeling many of us understand very well :,) sometimes its the weight of societal expectations, or social barriers that make us want to be great or nothing, because sometimes it truly does feel like that's what we need to do. learning how to pause in our pursuit of greatness and understanding ourselves a bit better is always what's tough in my opinion, as we are forced to reflect and question ourselves.

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shams's avatar

oh for sure! the toughest thing is taking a moment to be with yourself and understand yourself

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mansha's avatar

yup definitely!

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tine's avatar

tysm ! a lot of realizations has struck me cause of this :)

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تیرامیسو's avatar

You worded this so beautifully, the way you captured the experience of holding yourself at a pedestal in a zone of ambition and drive. We always have to remind ourselves that we’re just beings. This is incredible and I heavily resonated with it, well done!!

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shams's avatar

thank you so so much!! i'm so happy yet so pained that so many people resonated with this piece, that we all hold ourselves on such high expectations. we are only human!!!

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Nata Goldberg's avatar

This is so relatable. Especially this:

“When I know that I’ll fail at something, it’s sometimes hard to even start doing it in the first place. In doing this, I always question what would’ve happened if I just went for it.”

It’s something I am fighting myself on. Allowing myself to fail. If I don’t try then I will miss out on so much in life.

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shams's avatar

it's sometimes SO hard to do something you know you might fail at. and i admit, i still don't try things where i question the extent of how good the outcome might be. but i'm trying so hard and that's the best i, and we, can do

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𝐀𝐍𝐆𝐄𝐋𝐈𝐂𝐀 𝐑𝐎𝐒𝐄's avatar

you are a woman. you are inherently great. 🤍

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